To be fair, sometimes that's a fair approach. To someone who really doesn't know, or who has thought of only some possibilities and not looked further afield, a selection of suggested starting points would be useful.
Or even, someone is bringing themselves up to speed by thinking things through aloud from the start, hoping to get up to speed with where you are and maybe be able to help -- but uses a self-satisfied tone of voice that sounds as if what they said is the last word.
But either way, it's intensely aggravating when someone's opinion discounts all your thoughts and implies you're stupid for not having decided yet. I remember once playing dominos with dad in the pub with Dad, and there were a couple of kibitzers, old gentlemen who at least some of who have played the game for thirty years (and have an incredibly good intuition what to play next). I was hesitating over a move, it was near the end of the round, there were only a couple of dominos I could play, and I was trying to work out all the possibilities for the next play or two and ensure I had the smallest/no chance of giving away a big score. One kibitzer sees me stuck and points to a domino, saying "you could play this one". On which I feel really stupid, as there's no indication if that takes into account everything I'm thinking, or is simply a plausible play. And I can't ask, as Dad's sitting right there. Only later did I admit that the comment was really unhelpful, even if it had been helpful in spirit. (What was especially annoying is that it is quite possible he was utterly right, but even if so I'll never learn anything by randomly having right answers exposed to me if I've no way to approach them myself.)
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To be fair, sometimes that's a fair approach. To someone who really doesn't know, or who has thought of only some possibilities and not looked further afield, a selection of suggested starting points would be useful.
Or even, someone is bringing themselves up to speed by thinking things through aloud from the start, hoping to get up to speed with where you are and maybe be able to help -- but uses a self-satisfied tone of voice that sounds as if what they said is the last word.
But either way, it's intensely aggravating when someone's opinion discounts all your thoughts and implies you're stupid for not having decided yet. I remember once playing dominos with dad in the pub with Dad, and there were a couple of kibitzers, old gentlemen who at least some of who have played the game for thirty years (and have an incredibly good intuition what to play next). I was hesitating over a move, it was near the end of the round, there were only a couple of dominos I could play, and I was trying to work out all the possibilities for the next play or two and ensure I had the smallest/no chance of giving away a big score. One kibitzer sees me stuck and points to a domino, saying "you could play this one". On which I feel really stupid, as there's no indication if that takes into account everything I'm thinking, or is simply a plausible play. And I can't ask, as Dad's sitting right there. Only later did I admit that the comment was really unhelpful, even if it had been helpful in spirit. (What was especially annoying is that it is quite possible he was utterly right, but even if so I'll never learn anything by randomly having right answers exposed to me if I've no way to approach them myself.)