Sorry, quite right, that was badly worded. What I meant to say was that even the simplest of wedding dresses would upstage anything I can imagine myself coming up with, and that attempting to outdo it would be foolhardy and certainly involve wearing many more bells and whistles than I'd be comfortable with. By "rightly so" I didn't intend to suggest a general principle or requirement for all weddings. I'm sure a particularly flamboyant groom and a particularly simply dressed bride might see things differently.

Of course, given that the bride is currently a completely unknown quantity, she might turn out to detest wedding dresses just as much as I loathe shirts and ties, and all bets might be off. Wouldn't put money on it though.

I see where you're coming from now. Sorry, didn't mean to rant at you!

she might turn out to detest wedding dresses just as much as I loathe shirts and ties

When I got engaged for the first time I asked my sister if she'd be a bridesmaid. She gave me a Look. "Bridesmaids wear jeans and tshirts, right?"

Interestingly, she's single at the moment, too. ;-D