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On Saturday I had a choice of two parties: what sounded like the usual sort of Camgeek affair, or Brian's housewarming. So I went to Brian's housewarming, on the basis that that was likely to contain lots of people I either didn't already know or hadn't seen in ages, and would make a nice change. Unfortunately, it was biased overwhelmingly towards people I didn't already know, contained only about four or five people I did already know, and most of the people I didn't know seemed to prefer to talk to one another than to me or my friends. So we decided if we were only going to talk to each other, we should bail out early, go to the Gallery and do so in quieter and less smoky surroundings.

Most of the people there seemed to be people Brian knew from dancing clubs, which meant almost all of them were terribly fit and active, and the women in particular were distressingly slim. This made me feel like an utter lump by comparison, especially when I caught sight of myself in a mirror… It's not that I think I look particularly fat and ugly most of the time; it's just that when the rest of the place was completely filled with svelte dancers I found myself starting to feel like the odd one out.

Still, it was a good job that happened before Sunday, since Dad showed up and took me and Sophie out for a familial lunch at Dojo (yum). I definitely ate too much yesterday; I might try to cut down a bit this week for fear of actually turning into a lump.

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the usual sort of Camgeek affair

I hadn't realised until you said this just how much I'd let myself be subsumed into the tired "Camgeek" routine. :-(

*hugs*

Actually, your parties in particular do tend to have an above-average number of people who aren't the same old faces that appear at 90% of the parties I go to. I just thought this particular alternative party would be likely to have even more of such people; and as it turned out I was dead right but you can have too much of a good thing. With hindsight I should have gone to yours instead.

Hey, it's okay. I'm sorry for moping at you, it's just a thing I worry about sometimes... I think it's one of the reasons why I'm so bad with "communities" and stuff, I don't want to lose my identity. (Moo.)

Anyway, our party was pretty much a standard geek partylet -- basically just the Thursday crowd. It's a shame your other party wasn't as good as you hoped though. (BTW, Brian == Brian Cowe? Or somebody else entirely?)

Yes, that Brian. I didn't know you knew him too...

He gave me a laptop. I thought he was cute. :) I think since then I've bumped into him a couple of times in a kind of friend-of-friend way, and he was definitely in the FSG at the same time as our Thursday-meet some time towards the end of last year, & I chatted to him then, & he seemed like a cool person.

The problem is I know who he is, but I don't really know him well enough to just invite him to stuff out of the blue without it looking a bit weird...

And your problem with looking a bit weird is what, exactly?

I don't want to frighten him off?

Seriously, I think he'd just go "uh, who?" if I invited him to a party -- I doubt if he even remembers my name!

I suppose that's Possible. But, personally, I like getting party invitations out of the blue, from people I only dimly recall (not so unusual with a memory lie mine). It's a nice fillip, because giving an invitation is a positive act, and it implies that you must have made some kind of favourable impression them at some time.

's true. ... I'm just always worried that, in combination with me being a bit all-over-the-place in real life, it will end up looking like stalkerish behaviour. ("Argh! That mad woman I met in the pub has found my email address!")

According to what I've heard Brian is _seriously_ weird in relaitonships - I mean he's barking anyway, but his ex certainly seems to think he's seriously abnormal in a mad-end-of-the-geek-spectrum sort of way. Last count I _think_ he had a girlfriend also, but I'm a year or three out of touch - try asking sgt for more recent gossip. I'm sure he'd turn up to a party if you invited him though - he's the sort of person who'd have an iwj-style discussion with you of exactly who you are before accepting the invitation rather than just quietly ignoring it..

Doesn't really make any difference to me whether he's got a girlfriend or not! I just think he seems like an interesting person & I wouldn't mind chatting to him over a beer some time. So unless he has a girlfriend who doesn't let him chat to women it's not really an issue... (Yes, he is cute, but I can't chase everybody who's cute; I don't have enough hands.)

*laugh*
Maybe chase a few of them my way, then? I could do with a couple of spares.

Any particular type you're looking for, or are you not fussy? ;-)

*laugh*
Tall, skinny, longhaired (though two out of three sometimes ain't bad!)

hmmm....

Aww *grin* I don't think you're that lardy. But maybe resuming your 'learning to cook' kick could be a good thing :)